Don't worry if folks don't think you're as cool and edgy as they are. Otherwise we get into edginess brinkmanship, and just say no to that

I'm surprised that a library had the twelve kingdoms novel. I bought this copy from amazon.

BTW: Tohru's power of friendship also doesn't make people's personalities disappear. Yuki, Kyo and Shigure were in a house with her for two years, and in none of those years did they become perfectly flawless evolved beings who are perfectly psychologically healthy. They just worked on their deep psychological issues.